Scott Hodge


Learning About Myself

Jul 13, 2005

I’m learning a lot about myself right now.  I’m beginning to recognize more and more the things in my life that excite me and cause me to advance forward.  And then, on the other end of the spectrum, I’m also discovering what drains the life out of me and causes me to feel beat up at the end of the day.

Communicating, casting vision, writing, being creative and strategizing new and innovative ways to accomplish our mission are things that stir my passion and give me a huge mental energy boost at the end of the day. 

On the other hand, confronting negative behavior, counseling (mainly in-depth "not-so-good" issues), and trying to figure out how to motivate people puts a drain on me that is hard to explain. Being forced to micro-manage people is also a killer for me.   Mostly, it’s physically and emotionally draining. 

So what do I do?  Well it depends on who I ask.  If I talk to Marcus Buckingham, he will tell me to focus as much as possible on the things that give me a boost and let go of, as quick as I can, the things that drain me. 

Others might say that the "draining" experiences are good for a person and help develop areas of their lives that are good to grow in.

My opinion?  Buckingham is right.  I don’t think anyone will ever be successful by focusing on the things that ware and tare on them (even though, we probably do learn a lot by doing those things).  Most successful people I know have figured out how to focus on what they’re good at and have learned to let those things push them forward in their lives. 

So, what that means for me is that I have to be willing to CONSTANTLY make tough decisions about how, where and with whom I spend my time.  And doing that also drains me.  :)

What about you?  What drains you?  What excites you?  And what do you do to stay focused on those things?

12 Responses to “Learning About Myself”

  1. sarge says:

    commmunicating & leading excites me but counseling & pointless meetings drain me.

  2. Terry Storch says:

    You are so right. Please do not fall into the Pastor Trap or Pastor Lie that tells you that you have to do everything. Delegate and focus on what you are gifted at. Surround yourself with insane Talent and let them support you!

  3. Gemma says:

    I think this is a matter that calls for discernment. Sometimes, without a doubt, dropping that which drains me is the optimal choice. However, sometimes, upon reflection, I may just need to reframe my attitude about what seemingly drains me.
    Here’s a silly little example… When I first began to sew I absolutely loved dreaming up what I would make, choosing the patterns and materials and stitching the garment together. On the other hand, I detested adjusting and pinning the pattern and cutting it out. One day, after dragging my feet on a particular project, I realized if I wanted to become a true seamstress, I needed to embrace the dreaded preparation stage. This awareness, coupled with the desire to

  4. Jason says:

    I agree Scoot. I don’t claim to be an amazing leader but I have learned that it simply being faithful with the resources God has given you (with your gifts/talents) by focusing on your strengths. We waste too much time on trying to ’round’ ourselves out.

  5. Betsy says:

    What Gemma shared has a lot of wisdom. Discernment about what is an unnecessary drain on you (but could be someone else’s energizer!) and what is something you should face and conquer for growth.
    For me, a great creative planning session is so energizing! Sitting in a ladies book club discussion and seeing someone GET IT is energizing.
    Planning things that I know won’t happen drains me. I absolutely hate meetings that seem pointless — a meeting for the sake of meeting — especially when I know what is discussed will never get past the planning stage.

  6. allwyn says:

    Solving problems excites me. In my line of work that means designing or implementing software to improve business processes. Improved processes mean lower costs, increased productivity and higher payoffs, and that’s always exciting. Learning also excites me.
    People who over promise and under deliver drain me. I believe you should always set realistic expectations. If in the end you end up over delivering, bravo!

  7. matt says:

    I get energized by helping people. I actually like counselling (even the tough issues) I like motivating the team to accomplish the task. Numbers and details kill me. Actually suck the life right out of me.
    The hard part Scott is that as I went through Buckingham’s book (for the 3rd time now) I realized that he is talking mostly about large organizations and doesn’t focus on the “entrepreneurial” organization. With size you can afford to staff your weaknesses. Without size you are forced to be good at your weakness or your organization suffers until you have the size to staff for it. In church you can fill some with volunteers, but only to an extent and only if your limited applicant pool has the time and talent to do what you need them to do.

  8. Ted says:

    good thoughts matt.

  9. heather says:

    Things that energize me: encouraging people, decorating/designing, make up, being creative, singing, photography, anything ART related (except detailed drawings, lol), helping people in general
    Things that drain me:
    Thinking about what drains me, just kidding………
    Being around people who are constantly negative or constantly talking bad about themselves (it really drains the energy of the atmosphere and makes me feel like I should say something positive to not let their negative views stick to me)

  10. Things that excite me: Spending time with my daughter. Being granted the trust to be creative. Brainstorming with other creative people. Sitting on top of a mountain.
    Things that drain me: Close-minded people. Negative people. Talking politics.

  11. Betsy says:

    Oh, I thought of this this morning:
    I feel drained when I feel like I’m on my own, alone with the responsibility or task. I feel completely energized when I feel part of a team, especially a dynamic and creative team.

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