Scott Hodge

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Are you a MOST or a SOME?

Jun 30, 2010

Most read booksSome write them.

Most attend conferencesSome create them.

Most fake intimacySome live intimately.

Most love great designSome design.

Most listen to great musicSome write great music.

Most point out problemsSome solve them.

Most admire beautiful art. Some create it.

Most receive generously. Some give generously.

Most imagine what should’ve beenSome imagine what can be.

Most criticizeSome create.

Are you a “MOST” or a “SOME”?

Let’s stop being afraid of those blank canvases that stare us down and scare the hell out of us…….and let’s create.

Apologizing Well

Jun 21, 2010

Apologizing has become somewhat of a lost art, don't you think?  And to a large degree it's understandable because no one likes to admit failure – it's humiliating and when done well, there's no room for pride to stick around.  Which is why it's so hard to do!  Yet… know this as well as I do…apologizing well is one of the most powerful gestures we could ever show another human being. 

So here's five quick thoughts on how to do it well.

1.  Acknowledge your failure.

"I have failed you.  I've let you down.  I have done wrong."

2.  Acknowledge the impact of the failure.

"I have failed you….and as a result, I know I've caused you a lot of pain….I've put you in a very precarious position…..I have hurt you."

What NOT to say: "I'm sorry you were offended by what I did."  NO. That sucks.  Take responsibility.

3.  Tell them you're sorry.

"I've failed you….and I know it has caused you a lot of pain….and I just want you to know that I am truly sorry."

4.  Commit to change.

"….and I'll do whatever I can to make sure that never happens again."

5.  Shut the #*($&! up.

This is where we get into trouble.  Because the tendency is to add on:

"I'm sorry….it's just that…"

"I'm sorry….but I didn't mean it!"

"I'm sorry…it's just that you…"

No.  Don't make excuses.  Don't complicate it.  Don't qualify it. 

Fathers of the Second Chance

Jun 19, 2010
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This is powerful.  A USA Today article about fathers in prison trying to be better Dads. Thanks to Dave Gibbons & Mike Foster for pointing me towards it.

Nurturing Creativity

Jun 17, 2010
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Just watched this talk that Elizabeth Gilbert gave at TED last year.  It's beautiful and extremely freeing to any of us called to contribute on the canvas of creativity.

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